Dating A Man Who Has Nothing To Offer? 12 Things You Need To Know

He doesn't want the aggravation of not being able to do anything right for you. That's why these eight things about men over 50 are tips you can use right away in your dating life. These tips have made a huge difference in my both my life and the lives of my coaching clients.

But it’s not productive or helpful to keep telling him that life is meant to be an adventure! You want to motivate your boyfriend, not alienate him. But it’s a red flag you need to ask questions about. This is the type of thing that might not even make itself known because you met in a city he relocated to. However, after dating him for a little while, you need to see that he’s had friends for a while. If a guy doesn’t have any friends from before 22, that’s a red flag.

You can't truly pay attention or forge a genuine connection when you're multitasking. Nonverbal communication—subtle gestures, expressions, and other visual cues—tell us a lot about another person, but they're easy to miss unless you're tuned in. Make an effort to truly listen to the other person.

reasons he keeps you around when he doesn’t want a relationship

The single men apparently did not feel an obligation to give these interviewers macho or politically correct answers. We then broadened the study by surveying and then running focus groups of single men who at that time had no intention of getting married. At first, we had young single men do the interviews, but so many of the interviewees gave macho answers that we doubted their reliability. In fact, we threw out the entire study and started again.

He doesn’t feel appreciated

You and you boyfriend need to be on the same page with regard to careers, kids, location, and plans for the future. If you have ambitious dreams and goals but your boyfriend just wants to live a quiet boring life, then yes, your boyfriend will drag you down. There are literally hundreds of thousands of men and women in their forties and fifties eagerly seeking mates, but somehow they can’t seem to find each other. The main reason, I believe, is that those in both groups have been emotionally battered in the dating game, and they’re very gun-shy.

Dating expert: Don’t play hard to get

They’re reluctant to even consider marriage for a few years, because they want to sow their wild oats. Ninety percent of men who have graduated from college are ready for the next step between ages 26 and 33; this is when they are most likely to consider marriage. But this window of opportunity stays open only for four to five years, and then the chances a man will marry start to decline. So whether he’s hiding his feelings or simply not interested, a man who’s causing any confusion and making you wonder whether or not he likes you might not be worth your time.


If they were unemployed due to laziness, lack of ambition, etc. then no. I am not interested in being financial support for someone that I am not already deeply connected to. I wouldn't mind entering a relationship with someone who was unemployed.

It’s nice when a man is close with his mother, but if she knows where you are 24-7 or is snuggling in-between the two of you on movie night, you’ll feel more like a sibling than a significant other . “Family-oriented includes spending quality time together, celebrating with one another, and supporting each other. If it feels there is a competing element involved, you may feel that regardless of what you do or say, the family will win,” she says. One that accepts you too quickly is also a big no-no.

I can’t begin to tell you how many women have done this and come up empty-handed. This type of aggression rarely, if ever, wins a man’s heart. “Just keep on living,” as my mother used to say. If he is serious about you, he will do what it takes.

I don't think what a guy does exactly, that matters. If he is being lazy, and refuses to find a job, and is depressed about it, it's not gonna work. If he's got ambition and drive, and does something with his life while he is unemployment, then different story.

So if he has a plan in place, the fact that he lives with his mother may start to look better. On the other hand, if he is dead broke and mooching off his mother; well, that’s a different story. There is no need to entertain a man who isn’t trying to do something with his life.